A life well lived
Her Story
Eleanor Margaret Hayes was born on a snowbound morning in March 1942, in the small lake town of Wexford, the second of four children. She grew up among orchards and long summers, the kind of childhood she would later describe as "endless and golden," and she carried that brightness with her for the rest of her eighty-four years.
She trained as a schoolteacher and spent thirty-one years in front of a classroom of nine-year-olds, teaching them long division, the names of the rivers, and — more than anything — that they were capable of more than they believed. Generations of her students kept in touch; her kitchen table was rarely without a letter from one of them propped against the sugar bowl.
"Plant the trees whose shade you'll never sit in," she used to say. "That's the whole secret of it."
In 1968 she married Thomas Hayes, and together they built a home full of music, books with broken spines, and a garden that was never quite finished and never meant to be. They raised three children, welcomed seven grandchildren, and in her final years delighted in two great-grandchildren who knew her simply as "the lady with the good biscuits."
She loved early mornings, strong tea, the first frost, Chopin played a little too loudly, and the company of anyone willing to sit and talk a while. She gardened until her last spring, refused to be hurried, and met the world with a steadiness that made everyone around her feel safer. She was, in the truest sense, a gentle force.
Eleanor passed peacefully at home on the fourteenth of June, surrounded by family, with the windows open and the roses in bloom. She leaves behind not an absence, but a long warm light.
- 1942Born in Wexford, the second of four
- 1964Began teaching at Maple Street Primary
- 1968Married Thomas, her partner of 54 years
- 1971–1979Welcomed her three children, Claire, David, and Ruth
- 1995Retired after 31 years; began the rose garden in earnest
- 2026Passed peacefully at home, surrounded by family